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Top 5 Reasons You Should Forgive

by on September 19, 2011 >> 16 Comments
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1) To free yourself from the prison of hate and anger. For as long as you hold on to your feelings of hurt, pain, and the will to punish, you are held a prisoner. Releasing the past so it no longer has control over your thoughts and feelings, is the only way you will be set free.

2) Un-forgiveness will make you sick – literally. To harbor anger, hatred and anything negative in your heart will take a toll on your body. It takes many times more energy to hold on to anger as it does for letting it go. Negative thinking is destructive to your health! It creates havoc on your inside. Every organ system in your body has to work harder to accommodate all the hate and anger, as they do not belong in your system.

3) To give you clarity and help you focus. Un-forgiveness distorts your vision. A huge part of your psyche is dedicated to housing the feelings of hate, anger, and the wish to punish. Because you are so focused on the deed that makes you angry, you cannot keep a clear and objective outlook. You cannot keep a clear vision of your goals and the path you need to take to accomplish them.

4) To keep your important relationships intact. Your un-forgiveness is affecting the people closest to you. Whether you realize it or not, internal anger and unresolved negative feelings causes you to act and react differently to situations than you normally would, had you not been burdened with un-forgiveness. There is a constant battle taking place on the inside between the positive and the negative, and at times when the negative is exceeding the positive, you will be prone to snap or deal with people in your immediate circle, irrationally. Your most meaningful relationships can be destroyed if you do not reclaim full control of you.

5) So you can be whole again. As long as you have these negative feelings of hurt, pain, hate, and anger taking away from you, you are not complete. You are not able to embrace happiness – which is the most sought after need of every human, and you are not able to give or accept love wholeheartedly. You block the connections to the higher power, which causes you to lose sight of what your passions are, and what brings you joy, leaving you feeling lost without direction. Being stuck in a place of un-forgiveness puts a block in your ability to feel your connection to the divine and to your higher self. Your stronger intuitive insight and the deepened experience of spiritual connection cannot be felt as long as the way is unclear.

Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. Through personal struggle and tragedy you will gain a deeper understanding of the psychological and spiritual landscape of forgiveness, from its difficulties to its greatest rewards. By being able to forgive, you learn how to extend yourself to others and realize that this action is part of your healing. Forgiveness is not forgetting; in fact, you need to remember what happened to you, and how it affected you mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually! Forgiveness is having the memory, without the need to punish.

There is undoubtedly some very difficult events in our lives that seem almost impossible to forgive, but these are precisely the ones that need to be forgiven. If your experience has been so traumatic that it is a constant interference in your day to day life, it may be best to seek the help of a trusted professional therapist who can assist you in your healing. You must get to the point of complete healing and forgiveness. You remain a constant victim for as long as you have not forgiven them, and your health, relationships, and overall ability suffers. Un-forgiveness affects us on all levels: mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Forgiving someone is possible! It cannot be done without heart. It takes acknowledgement, will power, and a sense of purpose to get to the act of complete forgiveness. If you are willing to welcome forgiveness in your heart, as difficult as it may be, you are releasing yourself from the powerful hold of being a victim. When you embrace forgiveness you embrace, peace, joy, hope, and happiness.

Take back control of you! Stop being the victim and start being the victor. Forgive him, her, them, yourself – for you!

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16 Responses to Top 5 Reasons You Should Forgive

  1. Katherine on September 19, 2011 at 9:16 pm

    Interesting article! Of course some things are easier to forgive than others. Actually, some things are near impossible to forgive, but you are right. As long as we do not forgive, and release ourselves, we will forever be a victim and a prisoner.

    Love this article!

    • Marie on September 20, 2011 at 10:26 am

      For sure Katherine, and some people will take longer than others to get to the point of complete forgiveness, but moving towards forgiveness is absolutely a necessity.
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  2. Daniel Hughes @PC Support on September 21, 2011 at 3:19 am

    Wow, great post! I just love the way you have expressed the whole picture. Keep it up! Thanks for sharing. :)
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  3. Evelyn Lim | Abundance Tapestry on September 22, 2011 at 5:44 am

    I enjoyed reading your article very much. It certainly takes more energy to hold on to anger, rather than letting it go. Yet, forgiveness is not as easy as it seems. You are right, a sense of purpose helps. The person who benefits the most is the one who forgives. Something inside would have shifted.
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    • Marie on September 22, 2011 at 6:54 am

      Absolutely Evelyn, and we have too much to do to channel our energy elsewhere. Forgiveness is really not as easy as it seems, but in order for us to be whole and focused we must find a way to let go of our hurt, anger, and the will to punish. It will take a lot of work and effort but it is possible.

      Thanks for contributing!
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  4. Janice on October 2, 2011 at 7:26 pm

    All those reasons are valid, especially number 2. Many of us do not even realize that our declining health is due to the anger, frustration, and as you say ‘the wish to punish’ that un-forgiveness causes us to carry around everyday.

    Some things are very hard to forgive, but we must try and find a way to get there, even if we have to seek professional help.

    That said, I am grateful that I do not have anything major to forgive anyone. I hope that I have not caused anyone to go through this pain either.

    • Marie on October 3, 2011 at 10:26 pm

      Yes Janice, we must find a way to forgive – even if it means getting professional help. Some acts against us are so painful, and horrible but carrying around all that burden makes us sick and incomplete.

      It’s not an easy task but it must be done.

      Thanks for your input!
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  5. Marie on October 3, 2011 at 10:33 pm

    Hi Abhishek, I like that line, “To err is human and forgive is divine.” It really does take a lot to forgive, but we must in order to stay healthy and complete as individuals.

    Thanks for sharing!
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  6. Chris @ fayetteville carpet cleaning on November 5, 2011 at 2:14 am

    WOW..very deep and interesting read. As a person of faith in Jesus Christ, we are taught not only that we must be forgiven but that we are to forgive others as He has forgiven us. I couldn’t agree more that unforgiveness is a poison to the body. It will rip apart relationships in all areas of your life. Get rid of it. I recently went through a bout where I couldn’t forgive a few people. Had to ask forgiveness for not being able to forgive. Then I was able to forgive my neighbor. Interesting in the order though, I had to be forgiven and then I could forgive. Really worked for me!

    • Marie on November 6, 2011 at 11:24 pm

      Absolutely Chris! Forgiveness must take place in order to be whole and enjoy a healthy lifespan. Whatever it takes to get to the point of forgiveness, is what we must do!

      Happy you were able to forgive your neighbor; I know you must feel so much lighter.

      Thanks for sharing!
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      • Chris @ fayetteville carpet cleaning on November 18, 2011 at 10:25 pm

        Feeling better is an understatement..I feel foregiven and free from what I was holding. Bad stuff to hold on to with NO benefit at all!

  7. Daisy on June 3, 2015 at 3:52 pm

    Forgiveness can be hard sometimes, but you are right Marie, we are only hurting ourselves if we don’t find a way to forgive and just do it!

  8. Noreen on June 24, 2015 at 6:33 pm

    What I don’t understand is how people hold grudges for such long periods and expect to be light and healthy. I can understand people who were abused especially physically but majority should be able to forgive and move on from it. It is totally possible! I agree with you Marie!

  9. Deanne Cochrane on June 26, 2015 at 8:41 am

    If you’re not prepared to forgive, then be prepared for the extra baggage that will weigh you down affecting not only your attitude towards others and life, but also your lifestyle.

  10. Janeen on June 26, 2015 at 12:47 pm

    I say forgive to stay healthy and live longer! LOL! The only person hurting by not forgiving is oneself.

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